Few today wish to take responsibility for their actions or to bear the consequences of them. Many counselors aid and abet the blame-dodging by citing child abuse, poverty, low self-esteem, or anything else as the cause. Society's prevailing view seems to be that no one should be held accountable for their misconduct.
But God does not accept that. In Romans 14:12 He says, "So then every one of us shall give account of himself to God." There are no exceptions, for God says that "every one of us shall give account of himself to God." There is no escaping it, for He says that "every one of us shall give account of himself to God." We shall not account for the failures of others, for God declares that "every one of us shall give account of himself to God." And the account is not explained to a sympathetic counselor, but "every one of us shall give account of himself to God." This is a sobering thought, is it not?
However, this verse is in a context dealing with the Judgment Seat of Christ. This is the judgment of the works of saved people who are justified by faith in Jesus Christ. Rewards are determined on the basis of this judgment. How much more solemn the day when an unbeliever stands at the Great White Throne judgment (Revelation 20:11-15). There he is not receiving rewards for service, but rather his deserved sentence to the "Lake of Fire" for having rejected Jesus Christ as Savior.
But there is good news: God is "not willing that any should perish, but that all should come to repentance" (II Peter 3:9). Repentance requires admission of guilt, taking the blame for one's misconduct. It is a change of mind, a coming to agree with God's view of our sins. Anyone would be most wise to take the blame for his own actions, confess his sin to God, and trust Christ to cleanse him from his sins and remove the guilt. ". . . . now is the accepted time; now is the day of salvation" (II Corinthians 6:2).